Hello, Mr gentlemen

It’s a sad thing, being one of the male population in our country myself to have to say that common courtesy is seriously lacking in our society especially towards the fairer sex. Being a guy here, I have made many observations in many situations before and sadly to say, most of the time I can see a clear lacking of common tactfulness and courtesy shown by men here. Now we know why so many of our local girls are so enamored by foreigners especially the westerners. Could it be because they are better looking? Could be. Could it be because they are generally better build then us? Could be also, or could it be because they know how to show a bit of courtesy and act gentlemen more than the average men here? Definitely. Not to say I’m bias because I’m a guy but I truly believe if we want to compare good looks and good body build, we locals won’t lose so badly to the foreigners but when it comes to charm and being a gentlemen, we lose hands down. Fortunately, there are still locals who are curtiest and know how to act gentlemen but unfortunately, they are so rare and if not they are your typical Casanova Valentino.

Simple courtesy shown to girls actually counts for a lot and I’m sure will earn you many points in the good book of the girl you like. Yes, this is another thing I truly believe, girls do keep points on the men they like or at least have interest in so it will be in your best interest as a guy to keep this in mind instead of the scores and points of your premier league football. Common courtesy isn’t very hard to show, what you need is just to make an effort to do it. Simple actions like opening the car door for the girl, holding the lift door and allowing the girls to enter/exit first, and bringing the seat for the girl in a dining place are all simple gestures of common courtesy that a men should show but locally, you wont see it being practiced very often. Even if you see it, it will be because the girl is his girlfriend. This is another negative point because courtesy should not be bias. If you want to practice it, do it with all your girl friends instead only on the girl you like. This in fact gives you more points. For example, if your girlfriend sees you treating her nice but other girls like junk, what impression are you showing? I leave it for you to tinker on this yourself but unfortunately this kind of situations is very common here also.

Ok, time for some idle talk. To show courtesy, we must also throw away the 3K’s, Kiasu, Kiasee and Kiabor (Ok this last one I’m not too sure :D ). Simple logic here. If you’re Kiasu and always want to be the first in everything, will you hold the lift door and let the girls enter/exit first? Most of the time, you will push your way out and let the lift door “kepit” the poor girls following behind. Same goes if you’re a Kiasee person. When its raining, will you hold your umbrella to the girl while you brave the rain? Most likely you will give the umbrella to the girl and brave the rain yourself because you want to show that you are macho. Ahhh, when talking about this, I also want to point out why guys don’t like to carry umbrellas. Many of us worry that if we are caught dead holding an umbrella, especially when it’s not raining, duhh, it makes us look feminine. This is stupid thinking I say. Actually it’s very good to hold an umbrella. Why? Simple, when it’s raining, obviously you will have something on top of your head and when its not, you can hold that umbrella for your girl friends as sunshade. (Remember courtesy gains you points?).

Ok so fellow guys, before many of you come to me and “cekik” me to death, I hope you can show some courtesy and instead just give me a pat on my back. :P